ARE YOU DONE WITH BEING SINGLE BUT BEING SINGLE IS SEEMINGLY NOT DONE WITH YOU?
It sucks to be single when it is not out of choice, and many women (more than you’d think) find it challenging to attract a relationship. People who don’t have this problem just cannot relate, and will make you feel like an unlovable freak.
Let me tell you, there are very many eligible women who cannot break out of singlehood. Helping people attract relationships is a billion dollar industry. Money and Google are always a way to demonstrate the size of a need. How to attract a man yields over 81 million hits on Google. These website sell everything from actual products – like Pheromones that can sell for up to $300, – to information and services; books, seminars, “Hitch” like services, support groups, wingmen, the works.
Women have the added frustration of being in a society that expects men to initiate. Few women are comfortable with approaching men. Few men are comfortable with being approached by women. So for a women wanting to break out of singlehood, WHO IS NOT BEING HIT ON, it can be incredibly frustrating. Believe it or not, a lot of women, a lot of attractive women, go for years without being hit on. The reason you may not believe this is because they are usually ashamed.
As a result of the shame they lie about it, they pretend that they are single by choice or they make up fictitious relationships, or in the case of Debra Messing in the movie “The Wedding Date”, she hired someone to pretend to be their boyfriend. There is a scene in the movie where the escort, the impossibly delicious Dermot Mulroney declares; “Every woman has the exact love life that she wants”, he goes on to say; “When you are ready to be unsingle and unmiserable you will”.
I agree with him 100%.
In fact I have pissed off many a client by telling them this. I attract a significant number of coaching clients who want to break out of singlehood exile. It takes a LOT for a woman to get to a point where she is willing to PAY someone to help her attract a man. You have to get past a lot of shame and internal resistance to seek help beyond the usual, “guys hook me up, I am single and ready to mingle” to seeking professional help. So you can imagine how well that goes down, when I tell the client that she is single because she wants to be.
“Every woman has the exact love life she wants. When you are ready to be unsingle and unmiserable you will be.”
THIS IS ABOUT INTERNAL ALIGNMENT.
When you’ve done all the right things, and when all the right things didn’t work, and you did them harder, and the harder you DO all the right things the more single you remain, it is not because you are DOING something wrong, it is the BEING you are not getting right. A BIG internal (often subconscious) part of you is very happy to be single. Until you get this part on board you will remain single.
The theologian and Sufi mystic Rumi taught that: “Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”
There are lots of resources to help you get the DOING right, but few that help you get the BEING right. If you suspect that you have internal barriers that are exiling you in singlehood. If you have been single for longer than you care to admit. If you have asked yourself, “what is wrong with me?” If you have thought; “but I am hot?” If you’ve wondered if you are somehow invisible to men, we created MOJO BOOTCAMP for you.
We are going to help you get both the BEING and the DOING right to get your attractor factor back. You’ll be beating the men off with a stick. We are so confident that we are going to book a fabulous Valentine’s date for you NOW. Because come next Valentine’s Day you will have OPTIONS, girl!
ABOUT MOJO BOOTCAMP
Mojo Bootcamp is a bit like reality radio, some of it will be unfolding on Power FM, on Azania Mosaka’s Power Lunch.
We are looking for 3 women who have been single for longer than they care to remember and we are going to help them get both the BEING and the DOING right.
BEING: I will give them a 2 hour coaching session weekly “to seek and find all the barriers within” they have built against love.
DOING: Some times when you have been out of the dating game for too long you may need help with a few things, like your flirtation skills, or how to juggle a several men while you decide which one or three you’d like to keep (yes, we are that confident) so we have put together a glam squad to get you dating ready!
Ts & Cs
To become one of our luck 3 ladies:
- You must have been single for a minimum of 3 years, i.e. no relationship for over 3 years. We don’t count your dodgy bootycalls 😉
- You must be able to attend a 2 hour weekly coaching session in Johannesburg.
- You must be willing and able to come to the Power FM studio every second week on Power Lunch with Azania Mosaka to update listeners on your progress.
- You must be willing and able to put up a weekly post on the Power FM Mojo Bootcamp Facebook group.
- You must be sick and tired of being exiled in Singlehood, because there will be work to be done. This is bootcamp after all.
HOW DO I SIGN UP?
Subject: Mojo Bootcamp.
Content: Tell us a bit about yourself, your relationship history and how long you’ve been exiled for. We are going to assume that you are happy with the Ts and Cs if you are emailing.
See you on the other side 🙂